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Welcome to the First Issue of Mend - The Healer's Journey

March 08, 2023

We really want to thank you for being a subscriber to our brand new newsletter, Mend - The Healer’s Journey (Mend for short).

Doug here, and I’m not going to spend a lot of time and space with a big introduction or explanation of what this newsletter is all about.

However, the gist is that over the many years that Linda and I have had or site, Emotional Affair Journey, I’ve had the honor of speaking with hundreds of people who were struggling with recovering and healing after infidelity. Of course, many of those folks have been the unfaithful person in their relationship.

If you have ever spoken with me, then you know that one of the main messages I try to get across to the unfaithful person is the importance of understanding why they had their affair and to be more proactive in the recovery and healing process.

My hope is that this newsletter will be a conduit to help the unfaithful person succeed with that message, as well as assist them in making real and positive changes in their lives.

To do this, we’re also going to incorporate curated content that focuses on the 5 areas of self improvement: Social/relationships, Emotional Well-being, Personal, Physical, Professional/Financial.

Remember that your past - and your affair - don’t have to define who you are today or in the future. Assisting you in the recovery process with a side of self-improvement - using a mix of original and curated content - is what Mend is all about.

So, to kick things off, I felt perhaps a good start would be to direct you to an article from our blog…

3 Ingredients for Healing from Betrayal: Atone, Attune & Attach

By Sarah P.

For real healing to begin after an affair, both the unfaithful person and the betrayed need to understand how the trauma of the affair has affected the betrayed, and how they may be triggered in often unpredictable ways until trust is firmly re-established. This requires time, patience and a delicate balance of openness and safety.

The key to healing from an affair and experiencing Post-Traumatic Growth is to use a method that Drs. John and Julie Gottman developed called Atone, Attune, Attach.

This method would be ideal for couples where both appear equally committed to repairing their marriage.

Why Did I Cheat - An Interview with Marital Therapist, Andrew G. Marshall

Why Did I Cheat? Doug and Sarah P. interview author and Marital Therapist Andrew G. Marshall on this very important topic.

Individual Coaching for the Unfaithful

Are you an unfaithful person who is struggling? Could you use some advice, clarity, direction and accountability? Enroll in coaching for the Unfaithful today.

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The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.

-Oprah Winfrey

From the World of Self-Improvement

Relationships

Marriage Secrets From Couples Who Have Been Together 25 Years or More

We interviewed long-married couples on the secrets that have made their marriages thrive decades later. Here, their sage advice for a happy marriage.

The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love

Author Vienna Pharaon shares 5 key insights from her new book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love.

Emotional Well-being

Inner transformation is the next big thing in wellness

J. Balvin has partnered with a variety of practitioners including shamans, meditation teachers and movement experts to provide a bilingual wellness experience

How to find the mental sweet spot for smart decision-making

To engage our ventromedial prefrontal cortex for deep thought we can use spiritual practices, business theory or just read a poem.

Personal Growth

How to Create Lasting Change In Your Life - Wanderlust Worker

All of us want to create lasting change in our lives on some level. Whether the change we’re seeking involves our relationships, our health, our finances, or our careers …

How Habit Stacking Trains Your Brain to Make Good Habits Last

Get acquainted with habit stacking, a new way to form habits that's easy and effective enough to have everyone singing its praises.

Physical Well-being

5 Best Apps For Gym Workouts

"Customize your workout without breaking the bank. Choose an app for gym workouts and train correctly anywhere, anytime!"

‘I’m an 82-Year Old Triathlete and Former Neurosurgeon, and Here’s My Top Tip for Staying Mentally and Physically Sharp’

This longevity expert made changes in his own life in order to live life to the fullest. Here's what you can learn from his experience.

Professional & Financial

Got Money Anxiety? These 16 Financial Self-Care Tips Can Help

These are our 16 favorite ways to transform your self-care regimen and give yourself some financial peace of mind — no crystals or candles required.

The way we work is about to change | CNN Business

In just a few months, you'll be able to ask a virtual assistant to transcribe meeting notes during a work call, summarize long email threads to quickly draft suggested replies, quickly create a specific chart in Excel, and turn a Word document into a PowerPoint presentation in seconds.

Visit the blog for over 1200 articles and other helpful content, resources and community.

Hop on over to The Affair Recovery Movement member area for even more resources and support.

Take care!

Linda & Doug

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