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Restoring Trust Through Integrity
Living a life of integrity is the cornerstone of rebuilding trust after you've had an affair. I've been down that dark road, and I know from personal experience that the journey back to trust and respect in your relationship is paved with consistent, honest actions. Integrity isn’t just about telling the truth; it's about being true to your word, your commitments, and most importantly, to yourself.
When you cheat, you shatter the trust that your partner had in you. It's like dropping a glass vase — you can try to glue it back together, but the cracks will always show if you don't handle it with care.
The process of rebuilding trust starts with a commitment to live a life of integrity. This means more than just ending the affair; it means you need to examine the reasons behind your actions, confront your weaknesses, and make a conscious effort to change.
Living with integrity after an affair means consistently showing up as the person you claim to be. It means doing the right thing, even when it’s hard, even when no one is watching, and even when it’s tempting to revert to old habits. It involves being transparent with your partner about your feelings, your struggles, and your efforts to improve. It's about making promises and keeping them, and if you falter, owning up to it immediately and working to make it right.
Restoring trust is a slow process, and it requires patience from both partners. As the one who broke the trust, you must understand that your partner will have doubts, fears, and a lot of painful emotions to work through. Your job is to be a steady presence, consistently acting with integrity to show that you are committed to change and to your relationship’s healing.
Remember, actions speak louder than words. Living a life of integrity means that your actions will align with your values and the promises you make. It’s about creating a pattern of behavior that reassures your partner that you are worthy of trust again. It’s about proving that you can be the safe, loving, and reliable partner they need and deserve.
In the end, living a life of integrity not only helps rebuild trust in your relationship but also helps you grow as an individual. It leads to a life of greater satisfaction, self-respect, and connection with the people you love. So, if you’re serious about fixing what’s been broken and moving forward after an affair, start with a commitment to live a life of integrity. It’s the most solid foundation you can build upon.
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Individual Coaching
If you’re struggling after your affair and feel you need some guidance and direction, I encourage you to consider Individual Coaching. We can address any struggles you might be having head-on and/or work on those areas where you think you can use some improvement or want to change. You can learn more here: One-on-One Coaching for the Unfaithful Person
Additionally, I realize times are tough for many folks, so I'm offering a 20% discount as well. On the checkout page, simply enter the discount code, 20coach and click the "Apply coupon code" button.
“Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you.”
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Whenever you’re ready, there are 2 ways we can help you:
1. If you’re still looking for traction in your affair recovery experience, we’d recommend starting with an one of our affordable programs. Here are 2 options:
→ Survive and Thrive after Infidelity – A unique and complete resource that will guide you through the recovery and healing process starting at D-day. It will provide you with the knowledge and tools to not only survive the affair, but thrive! Get started now!
→ The Unfaithful Person’s Guide to Helping Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair: For the struggling unfaithful person, this program delves into the 24 ‘tasks’ that the cheater must complete for them to move from betrayer – to healer, while gaining a better understanding of their betrayed partner and what he/she is going through. Become a healer.
2. Individual Mentoring – Whether you’re the betrayed or the betrayer, to talk to someone who has gone through what you’re going through and who can listen and empathize with you is an incredibly powerful and valuable thing. It’s not just sympathy – it’s empathy – and it’s irreplaceable. Reserve a session (limited spots available).
Take care!
Linda & Doug
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