How could I have been so stupid?

You know, there are times when folks who've been unfaithful don't feel bad enough to seek help right away. But then, there comes a moment for some when the pain gets real enough that they start asking themselves, "How could I have been so stupid?"

If you're genuinely asking yourself that, you're on the right track. It means you're beginning to snap out of it, shake off that affair haze, and see things more clearly. Just by wondering how you could've missed the mark so badly, it's a sign your brain is waking up to the mess you've made.

When you were in the thick of the affair, it's like your brain was on cruise control, not really thinking things through or worrying about the fallout. It's as if you were sleepwalking through life, reacting to whatever came your way without a second thought about the consequences.

This sort of sleepwalking happens when we're stressed, under the influence, starved for food or affection, feeling lonely, or just too caught up in the heat of the moment. When your brain isn't fully in gear, it's easy to make choices without considering the impact.

And when life piles on and you're dealing with a bunch of these things at once, it's overwhelming. Your brain figures, "Eh, auto-pilot can handle this." But let me tell you, that's when you're at your most vulnerable. That affair fog? It's like your brain's stuck in neutral, going through the motions without really engaging.

It's not about being dumb. Your brain just took a shortcut and ended up in a ditch. To really get to the bottom of why you cheated, it's crucial to dig into what was going on underneath. Were you unhappy in your relationship? Looking for a thrill? Missing attention? Fighting all the time with your partner?

Pulling your head out of the clouds and getting back to thinking straight is a big part of fixing things. In my coaching, I guide you through starting to put the pieces back together and much more. It's all about understanding the reasons behind the affair, facing up to what happened, and tackling the healing process as a team.

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Individual Coaching

If you’re struggling after your affair and feel you need some guidance and direction, I encourage you to consider Individual Coaching. We can address any struggles you might be having head-on and/or work on those areas where you think you can use some improvement or want to change. You can learn more here: One-on-One Coaching for the Unfaithful Person

Additionally, I realize times are tough for many folks, so I'm offering a 20% discount as well. On the checkout page, simply enter the discount code, 20coach and click the "Apply coupon code" button.

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Whenever you’re ready, there are 2 ways we can help you:

1. If you’re still looking for traction in your affair recovery experience, we’d recommend starting with an one of our affordable programs. Here are 2 options:

→ Survive and Thrive after Infidelity – A unique and complete resource that will guide you through the recovery and healing process starting at D-day. It will provide you with the knowledge and tools to not only survive the affair, but thrive! Get started now!

→ The Unfaithful Person’s Guide to Helping Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair: For the struggling unfaithful person, this program delves into the 24 ‘tasks’ that the cheater must complete for them to move from betrayer – to healer, while gaining a better understanding of their betrayed partner and what he/she is going through. Become a healer.

2. Individual Mentoring – Whether you’re the betrayed or the betrayer, to talk to someone who has gone through what you’re going through and who can listen and empathize with you is an incredibly powerful and valuable thing. It’s not just sympathy – it’s empathy – and it’s irreplaceable. Reserve a session (limited spots available).

Take care!

Linda & Doug

Emotional Affair Journey

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